Okay, theres another question.
Why would anyone want to get past gender?
I think that in large part, stereo types are stereotypes because they contain a grain of truth. Whether it’s a flattering truth or not is another matter, but they are probably at least some true to some degree or it wouldn’t be any fun for people to make fun of you over it.
Point being, for the most part people have needs that are hardwired into them by eons of biological programming. Most men like to see lots of girls. Most women would rather just have one good guy. Why should we want to get past that?
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it's less about aspiring to be as good as a man, and more about the desire to be who you are. to be real. and if, for girls like me, that involves drinking beer and watching porn, or if other women want to burp and fart in public, or talk about makeup and shopping in public, well then… good.
Okay at the risk of enraging feminists everywhere I will make my comment. I totally agree with you, I think it is totally inappropriate and unappealing for a woman to act like that. (and you know what, I can do without a guy doing that all the time too – but whatever) Its about self respect, in my books. Maybe it is just a different kind of person who would seek a woman such as this. Or maybe the same man who would seek this woman, would be the man cheating on his girlfriend, wife or whatever with someone more “feminine”. Alternately, it could be this mans little fetish, or strange fantasy…once fulfilled its appeal would probably die out. I do not know, but as a woman, who feels she has nothing to prove to anyone, and who also feels that no one holds me back from the success that I achieve, I agree with you. I dont do any of those things, and I am successful and happy and respected. I am whatever I want to be, whenever I want to be. I desire to be pleasant, and not smelly or burpy, etc. I wish that women would stop obsessing over gender differences and just live to be the best people that they are because frankly, women who spend all their time fighting to say they are “equal” or arguing that they are being held back by their gender, invest the time they should in living in a bunch of meaningless %&*!. (If you are a woman who is being dicriminated against and is sure of it, then I will just say, you can fight for that, thats cool – just dont create handicaps for yourself that dont exist). Women are beautiful as the creatures they are, and I for one enjoy living that. It is what being a woman is about. I am not a feminist, I am not an anti-feminist, I am just a human being – I like to be the best that I am. Thanks for your entry.
I am in no way aspiring to be a man when I belch in public. The only thing I'm trying to do is release some built up gas that would otherwise sit in my gut and give me a stomach ache. If I'm at a fancy dinner party I will stifle a burp, just like any polite person (male or female) should. But I don't feel that I should have to sit in discomfort when I'm around guys just because I could possibly look unattractive if I burp. As for farting, I think it's unattractive if anyone (again, male or female) does it in public, but it's a bodily function and is excusable. My point again is, why sit in discomfort when you can do something about it?
damn, look at this response. you've hit a nerve. maybe there is/was a grain of truth in sterotypes, but I like to think that in general I, and my friends, have evolved past them. feel free to stay with your comfortable assumptions of what mean is, and what woman is. but it's far more interesting without them.
you know, whenever i “act like a girl” my male friends act openly upset and dissapointed. when i say to them, i can't help it, sometimes. i mean, i have tits, you know? they say “we know, amalthea, it's just so dissapointing.”
i rather let it out and be ashamed, than hold it in and pop a vein.
*ahem*
As a woman, I don't aspire to be equal to men. I'm not averse to asking a guy to open a jar for me, or to using my feminine assets (and the drooling caveman behavior of guys) to my advantage. However, I think your definition of being the best woman one can be is incorrect, also. You're making stereotypes. Not all women are compassionate, and not all men resolve conflicts by making body parts fly. You haven't gotten past gender any more than the feminazis have. The point is not to be the best *woman* I can be, but to be the best *human* I can be. I realize my shortcomings. I have no upper body strength. The innards of a car do not interest me in the least. Neither does sewing. I'm not going to pretend like I like to watch football, but I'm also not going to pretend I like wearing skirts and platform shoes, either. I capitalize on my strengths, no matter what gender they may be most associated with. As for burping and farting, I like burping because I think it's fun, but I don't do it out loud in mixed company. And farting is just gross no matter who does it or when. There's my two cents.
So, its no secret that girls burp or fart, but I don't like burping or farting in public regardless of whether of with a man or not. My mom alway taught me that if you have to burp keep your mouth closed so it doesn't make a sound. I'm not a beer drinker, and while I could probably hold my own in a fight, I'm a girly girl. I don't think there is anything wrong with that either. I'm not concealing who I really am. I don't think being “Ladylike” makes me any less of a woman, but at the same time, other woman may do as they please as far as I'm concerned. I like being a woman. I don't want to be a man, and when it comes to relationships, as you know Jim, I'm pretty *old-fashioned*.
nah, i think most men would rather have one good woman who doesn't mind bringing in floozies every so often…
Personally, I enjoy being a woman and would not want anyone to mistake me for anything other than that. I don't burp and fart in front of people.. because that is the way I was brought up. You don't do that. “It's not ladylike.” As for getting past the gender thing, I don't think that's really possible for me.
*Buuuuuuuuuuuurp* What was that Hodge? Didn't hear ya.
You are old-fashioned and a chauvinist – or, perhaps, like the rest of us, a product of your up-bringing. It is a fact of life, girls burp and fart (albeit less than men). It is only social dictates that say we should bottle it up. Women that are trying to change these attitudes are not trying to be your equal. They are trying to break down the custom that says they must make themselves uncomfortable to make their men feel comfortable. Sure, there is a time and a place. We all bottle at times. If you limit yourself to dating you will probably rarely encounter the farting female but, ask her to stay the night and give her insides a good jiggling round and you have to expect, and accept, the consequences. Ladies dont fart? Bullshit! We burp, we fart, my god, sometimes we even shit. We have just been trained to hide it for the comfort of our men folk. Breaking the shackles is well overdue. You want a woman that is relaxed with her body and with yours? Well, the odd fart comes with the territory. It should be treated the way any fart should, with ribald laughter and good humour. Don't like it? Buy a blow-up. It is the only fartless female on the market.
how do you know it's biological and not cultural? i think the evidence shows that most gender differences are based on culture, and will change with time and place. anthropological studies from all over the globe have shown this. there is nothing intrinsically “male” or “female”; it's purely based on our culture and what we have been taught since we were tiny children and given blue rooms verses pink rooms. there's nothing intrinsically “true” about that, or anything else gender related, for that matter.
In short, women emulate men because men make more money. Don't believe me? Do some research. Men consistently make more money than women, doing the exact same jobs. In a way, it's psychological, emulate the actions of those that have what you want.
the reason we want to get past gender sometimes is because sometimes we women get treated like lesser citizens. anyone would want to get past that. i agree; i prefer the differences between men and women, i think they're wonderful. but when society, for god knows how many years, has said that we're not just different, we're lesser, well, you get a little frustrated.
i like it when girls burp it shows that they can be a normal person and not so stuck up and pretty al the time